I have been intrigued by the parent/child connection and the many facets of it for years. Today, I am back on video to share what I believe happens to us, as adults, which directly affects our relationships with others, but particularly with our children.
Take a listen to become aware of just how easily we slip into “survival mode” and what it can do you…
Cliff Note Version:
- We are all born with an “authentic self”
- We move away from that “self” and form our “survival self”
- We then become less authentic and develop more of a “facade” which becomes incredibly difficult to maintain
- Which self-do you identify more with?
This is a very touchy subject for some. I once had a client who definitely was able to identify with the survival self as she endured many years of an abusive and neglectful marriage, which included many episodes of infidelity, while basically raising their children alone. She was able to communicate that the survival self was able to help her to “get through” those years but is now doing more harm than good and she is ready for a change.
How are you doing? Do you rely, like so many of us do, on your survival self to protect you from any potential harm that could occur? Is it easier to keep up your defenses rather than let them down in order to be vulnerable and available to those around you?
I would love to hear your comments / questions /concerns…Are you willing to take a leap of faith and seek to get to know your authentic self? I hope so. You will thank yourself later!